May 9, 2015

3 Ways to Embody Motherhood (Even if You’re Not a Mom)

Think about the best qualities of a mother for a second: she’s warm, welcoming, non-judgmental, nurturing, loving, supportive… I could go on.

It’s no wonder we consider her a safe haven, a person to love us up even when we’ve fallen on our faces, and someone to remind us that we are capable of anything.

Being a mother is an incredibly important role–whether you’re a mother to a child, a pet or a business. And embodying the energy of motherhood not only pushes us to expand our capacity for love, but also our connection to the feminine.

I’m not sure if I’ll ever have children of my own. But, as a mother of a 1.9 lb Teacup Yorkie (for almost 10 years), I know firsthand what it’s like to put another living being before myself, to love her unconditionally, and to support her healthy, happy life as much as I can.

In today’s video, I share 3 important tips on how to own our innate motherly energies so that we can experience the beauty of caring for others–and ourselves–in small ways every single day.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! Whether you’re a mother or not, what are ways that you enjoy expressing the nurturing qualities of motherhood in your life? Please share them in the comments below, as always, your input makes such a difference to our entire community.

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  • Awo

    Nitika, I love this so much!! Thank you! I ‘m not a mom and also don’t know if I want to be. I love these tips for embracing motherhood and have found that volunteering/mentoring with kids in church daycare or helping teenage girls helps as well. I found that also making sure my self-care is a priority is another way to feel into that energy. Curious though: how do you feel you’lol know the time is right for kids?

    Happy Mother’s Day to you for your beautiful Bella! xo

    • Nitika

      Wow Awo you’re so quick – I just posted this video and haven’t even shared it yet!!! Love it your enthusiasm. So much. I think all of these tips are AMAZING. You’re so spot on + I couldn’t agree more. In terms of your question, it’s a good one. I personally kind of already know I probably don’t want kids. I have a lot of reasons why and have thought about it in depth for many years. I am just not being definitive because I am trying to keep an open mind for when I meet the person I am meant to be with. I hope that is helpful! If you’re asking this because you don’t know when you will know, just keep being in the inquiry and follow your heart. It will guide you to the right place I promise. Lots of love!! xo

  • Liubov

    Nitika, thank you so much for sharing these amazing thoughts!
    I love being a “mom” or a teacher to my little children in a Sunday school class. Even though I am only 19 years old, I feel like I already have a great connection with kids, maybe just because I’m still childish, haha 🙂
    My mistake is that I am not a good hostess. I wish I could be, I’m dreaming of having little parties with my girlfriends…But sometimes I’m just a little bit…uh, not too brave. I wish I could have my own little house or apartment so I could arrange it as I wish 🙂

    Happy Mother’s day, Nitika!
    And, one more time, thank you for all your posts on instagram and here, you’re such a support to me! :*

    • Nitika

      Hi beautiful! Wow 19 years old and SO wise. I love it + you are way more brave then you even realize. These points are just suggestions but if you don’t do them exactly it does NOT mean you are making a mistake. Teaching Sunday school is incredible and I have never done that before so you have me beat. Keep rocking it love bug – you’re doing amazing!!! xoxo

  • Claudia Santillana

    Thank you for the reminder of how important selflessness is to development of our future generations! I have remarkable kids ages 26 and 19 and even when I experience burnout I ways find was to remind them that I will always be a mother to them and show them unconditional love! Everyday I either send a text or write a special note in their lunch bags reminding them how special and important they are! My kids are one of a kind and strive for excellence in all things!!

    • Nitika

      Oh my gosh Claudia you are amazing + I can feel the love you have for your children beaming through my computer screen!! They are so lucky to have you as their mom and thank you for taking the time to share your experience of motherhood with us. Lots of love being sent your way! xoxo

  • Blair

    Aw, I love this. It’s so true that as women, whether we realize it or not, we bring mothering qualities to a lot of our relationships.

    • Nitika

      Yes yes! So glad you liked it Blair. Lots of love! xo

  • Jennifer Combs

    You are so right! Children are an extension of ourselves. If we struggle they struggle. When we are strong, they become strong.

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