What is a “No Ninja,” you ask? If I had to define it, I’d tell you it’s someone who says “no” to things with grace, love, and ease. It may seem odd to put three very positive feelings alongside something that seems negative. So let me explain.
As women, saying no often feels like we’re disappointing others OR that we’re potentially missing out on something awesome. The thing is, our time and how we spend it is precious and crucial to success in life. In fact, it’s one of the most precious commodities.
For those of us who want to be the greatest friend, the perfect daughter, the ultimate soul sister, and the owner of a booming 6-figure business, saying no is a serious challenge. But if we want to embody and possess those things, we have to stay in alignment with that. Which means saying no becomes a weekly, if not a daily practice.
Here’s what I’ve discovered over the years: becoming a “No Ninja” is the key to having it all. It keeps you focused on what really matters and allows you to always make the very best decision. Because when we ultimately say “yes,” we want it to feel like a “hell yes”.
For those of you who feel anxiety about saying no, here are 5 ways to become a “No Ninja” in no time.
- Do a Gut Check. Is it a “hell yes”? There’s either going to be a feeling of dread or a feeling of certainty. Tune in and see what’s real.
- Play It Out. Review the potential outcomes in your mind. And decide which ones feels like the better choice.
- Don’t Give into Pressure. Although it may feel that everyone else wants you to do something, you’re the one who has to deal with the consequences of saying yes when you really want to say no.
- Honor Yourself. When you say no you can often feel vulnerable in standing up for what feels right for you. Be sure to be extra gentle with yourself in the process and remember that you know best.
- Run it By a Trusted Friend. Feeling unsure? Get support from a friend that you know has your best interest at heart. Knowing that someone has your back always makes it easier to make decisions.
Being a “No Ninja” isn’t only empowering. It’s one of the greatest forms of self-love because in the process of saying no you are declaring your truth and honoring your truth.
Now, I want to hear from you! How does saying no make you feel? Do you think becoming a “No Ninja” would improve some things in your life? Tell us all about it in the comments below!