On the mornings when my heart is broken, I take things slow. I was sitting in my apartment this week loving myself through a broken heart and I realized that there is a whole different rhythm when my heart is aching and broken. I don’t open up to you guys that much about my romantic relationships because it’s honestly so personal to me and I prefer to keep certain things private. I plan to still do that (for now) but I also want you to know the truth about what I have been facing in my life because I know that if I am going through it, one of you might be too.
After dealing with a devastating heartbreak over the holidays, I realized that the pain I feel in my heart when a relationship ends is very similar to the pain I felt all those years when my body was breaking down. It’s part of what inspired me to write this post about facing your pain and how it’s such a super power.
Emotional pain and physical pain are different but when you’re in the middle of either of these feelings they can often feel exactly the same.
On the mornings when my heart is broken I do one of these five things to love myself through it.
* Call a friend and let them know what’s up, which helps me feel less alone and tap into the love that is around me.
* I pray. Like sometimes for a full hour before I can start my day. My recent heartbreak was a beautiful reminder of how far away I had gotten from my spiritual practice and reconnecting with God has been a total gift. I just need to get it all out and know that God is my homeboy and has my back.
* I let myself lay in bed for just a little bit longer than I normally do. Taking the pressure off having to show up ASAP brings relief to my cells.
* I force myself to make a nourishing breakfast. And I say “force” intentionally because I have noticed that one of the first things to go when I am broken hearted (for whatever reason) is my desire to nourish myself. I stop eating, stop cooking and stop making healthy choices with food.
* I listen to something inspiring and supportive because chances are pretty good that the thoughts in my head are pretty brutal. Often it’s a YouTube video from Matt Kahn like this one, or this Brene Brown talk and of course Super Soul Conversations from our girl Oprah is a great podcast on Spotify.
The moral of the story here loves? Being gentle with yourself, taking life super slow and loving yourself through your pain is the absolute kindest thing you could do for yourself right now. If you’re anything like me, kindness and heartbreak don’t really go hand-in-hand as it’s usually an invitation to beat myself up. I did a lot of that over the last couple of months as I was trying to make sense of all that happened in my love life.
But you know what? I am SO not committed to staying there and I know that you aren’t either. So whether you’re body is showing up in a way that is super frustrating or you’re scared you won’t be able to pay all those medical bills you have or that guy just broke your heart, just know that you have something that is incredibly valuable that no one can take away from you. You have YOU. Your strength, your wisdom, your courage. YOU.
So now I would love to hear what’s going on in your life and what reading this blog has brought up for you. Leave me a comment below and let me know what you do on the mornings when your heart is broken or if one of my suggestions resonated with you! Love you so much sweet things. You got this.